We have committed.  We found our breeder and we have put a deposit down on a puppy so there is no turning back now.  We chose to get a puppy from a responsible breeder.  I’ve already been asked by a few friends “Why didn’t you rescue a dog?  There are SO many homeless dogs!”  So, if you are secretly wondering the same thing here’s a list of why we chose a buy from a breeder instead of buying a dog from a rescue.

1. Compatibility.  My dog, Stanley, is well mannered and socialized with a rock-solid temperament, however I want the new dog to be compatible with him.  I want my dog to have a voice in the new dog we bring into the house.  This is far easier with a puppy than an older dog.  I know he would get along with any puppy we bring home but there may be a puppy that really clicks with him so Stanley will be with us when we pick our puppy.
2. Timing.  When you work with a responsible breeder you know when the puppy will be born, when they are weaned and ready to come home.  This allows us to plan accordingly and be ready.  No spur of the moment decisions here or waiting endlessly for the “right” rescue to come along at the “right” time.
3. Epigentics.  Many people get a puppy from a shelter or rescue thinking that they are getting a blank slate.  Quite often these puppies have behavior problems.  Especially fear.  Puppies are NOT blank slate.  Why?  Because of epigenetics.  In a nutshell, the experiences of the parents affect the offspring.  I want a dog with behaviorally sound parents.  Curious about epigenetics?  Here is a super quick explanation.  And a longer explanation here. 
4. Early learning.  The eight weeks the breeder has the puppy is super important.  Why?  Because the foundation of every animal starts the minute they come into this world.  There are critical and important phases that all dogs must go through to develop into sound animals.  I want a dog from someone who understands these phases and meets all their needs - especially at critical times. 
5. Health guarantee.  Reputable breeders carefully select the best health qualities in the dogs that they breed.  Every puppy born to a reputable breeder has parents that have gone through a series of genetic tests to ensure that the dog you get has the best possible chance of being healthy. So, our new puppy will come with a health guarantee that states “This puppy is guaranteed to be in good health and has been vaccinated and de-wormed properly for the puppy’s present age. The puppy has been thoroughly examined by a licensed vet, and given a clean bill of health. This puppy is guaranteed to the original buyer for two years against hereditary/genetic diseases, and hip dysplasia.”  That is not only piece of mind for me but also for my pocketbook.
6. Back-up Plan.  Reputable breeders stand behind their work.  Here is what my breeder has to say “I can tell you my dogs will NEVER end up in a shelter. Not only will I buy back dogs if they can’t be kept, but if, by chance, a dog I produced ends up in shelter, it’s microchipped with me as a secondary contact that can’t be removed. I am responsible for all my puppies for life. Shelters wouldn’t even be needed if all breeders did the same.”  Again, piece of mind for many owners.
7. Love of the breed.  I don’t want to end up in a world that just has “dogs”.  I love the variety of the breeds we have and don’t want to see them disappear.  Did you know that many breeds today have very small populations?  If some breeds were any other kind of animal, they would be considered endangered. You may find it hard to believe, but breeds can become extinct.  If we don’t support reputable breeders, we will lose them and lose the wonderful variety of dogs they breed.  For more on this idea read this blog.
8. Stacking the deck.  Right now, I don’t have a lot of free time and the time I do have I don’t want spend on a lengthy behavior modification program with my own personal dog.  I’ve been there and done that with my previous dog, Jasper, so I know what it entails but that doesn’t mean I want to go there again.  At least not right now.  There is no perfect dog.  Getting a dog from a breeder doesn’t guarantee that you won’t have problems or challenges. Not all breeders are reputable but that’s a topic for another day.  By using a reputable breeder I believe I am going to stack the deck in my favor of getting a temperamentally sound and healthy dog. 
9. Truth behind the curtain.  Rescues aren’t always what they seem.  Some are great and some are not.  "Don't buy while shelter dogs die" is great marketing.  It tugs at your heart strings.  But unscrupulous rescues and shelter organizations are responsible for importing almost double the number of dogs euthanized.  Why are "rescue organizations" not placing the dogs we have in the United States? Why are they spending donation money on importing more? There is such a thing as irresponsible rescue. “670,000 dogs are euthanized in US shelters every year.  1,000,000 dogs are imported from overseas by rescues every year.”  (Source – CDC & ASPCA) in addition, these dogs are often not healthy.  Here are just two examples from this year of poor health in imported dogs.  New strain of distemper and Rabies from Egypt dog.
   
10. High expectations.  My new dog will be a working partner with me and that requires a level of skill that the average dog owner doesn't need.  It gives me piece of mind knowing that I will know everything my dog has experienced in his life so I am not surprised by an unexpected response in the middle of a training class or private session.
    

Where you get your dog is a personal individualized decision.  What is right for one person may not be right for another.  Rescuing a dog doesn’t make you a better owner, nor does it give you the right to judge anyone who hasn’t rescued a pet.  Being a great dog guardian isn’t based solely on where you got your dog but how you treat the dog for the rest of their life.  The quality of the relationship and life you provide the dog is what matters at the end of the day.

The sun was shining, the snow was glistening and we were together.  Michael, Stanley and I were in the mountains we love so much.  It was our first time back without Jasper.  It was bittersweet.  We were happy to be back but we all knew it was different.  We were less.  Our pack is only three.  As we walked we talked.  "Are we ready?" and "Stanley is so lonely" being the two we kept coming back to.  In the end Stanley's depression sealed the deal.  We made a logical decision to get a puppy.  As I started my breeder search it was overwhelming.  I know so much more now than I did when we got Maverick and Jasper.  Hell, even my idea of a great breeder has changed since we got Stanley.  So, the hunt was on.  All very logical.  Timetables, cost, breeder experience,  planning etc.  All very logical.
But, where was my heart?  Buried.  Two weeks ago I got a shovel.  It was in the dark of the night as I lay in my husband's arms that I cried for all that we have lost.  Two dogs in less than three years.  My soul dog just two months ago, and here I was talking about a new puppy.  When you know the outcome how do you get back on the merry go round?  And in the dark, with his voice cracking my beloved said to me, "because the love is worth the pain."  Yes, the love is worth the pain so let's get back on.  Dig your heart out of your grief to give it fresh and new to a brand new soul.
I've found my breeder and if all goes well the puppy will be here at the end of spring.
For now, though, I will enjoy the present moment.  I will enjoy my sweet spot with my brown dog.  What is the sweet spot?  The time when your dog knows you.  Knows the rules, makes wise choices, loves you and GETS you.  This time is our chance to bond deeper with him as an individual not as a member of the pack.   To give him ALL our attention before he has to share us with a pup.
A dear friend recently said to me, "I wish you the peace of simply living your days as they unfold, neither rushing ahead or regretting where you have been."  Right now, I am living my days with my brown dog, appreciating what we have.  I'm not over the moon excited about a new puppy yet.  There is time for that.  Today?  Today I am enjoying my sweet spot with Stanley.

As I sit here on this cold first day of a new year I reflect on last year. Last year the theme that kept repeating in my life was “be present”. Present in a moment.  Quieting the thoughts in my head to be present in THIS moment.  Re-evaluating priorities to be present in this life.  Focusing on the present moment, this moment right here, right now and letting tomorrow or next week go.

My father was diagnosed with Progressive Supranuclear Palsy in 2017.  Progressive supranuclear palsy (PSP) is an uncommon brain disorder that affects movement, control of walking (gait) and balance, speech, swallowing, vision, mood and behavior, and thinking. The disease results from damage to nerve cells in the brain. The disorder’s long name indicates that the disease worsens (progressive) and causes weakness (palsy) by damaging certain parts of the brain above nerve cell clusters called nuclei (supranuclear).  Estimates vary, but only about three to six in every 100,000 people worldwide, or approximately 20,000 Americans, have PSP—making it much less common than Parkinson's disease.

Before his diagnosis I had been visiting him once a week.  I could see his declining health but I just thought it was old age and that people age differently.  In the beginning I struggled with these visits.  What in the world do I talk about with my Dad?  But it wasn’t long and we found our rhythm.  One thing that we did was listen to Mike Rowe’s podcast They Way I Heard It.  If you get a chance, check it out.  You’ll like it.  That time, companionable silence opened the door to having wonderful heart to heart conversations.  He started to share with me in a way he never had before and soon I was telling him things about myself, my life that I once kept hidden from him.  Once we got the diagnosis so many things started to make sense.  Unfortunately, he has struggled with health issues all this year.  In the spring he fell and was hospitalized.  After rehab he rebounded a bit and was able to come home.  He could walk short distances with a walker but spent the majority of his time in a wheelchair.  We passed the summer like this.  I would visit three times a week and give my Mom a break from caregiving.  I would bath him, help him navigate the bathroom, make him lunch etc.  Modesty was quickly stripped away and again, it revealed a new level to our relationship.  During this time, I focused a lot of my energy on being present with him.  At the end of October, he fell again and this time he broke his tailbone.  Back to the hospital and rehab.  The day before Thanksgiving he was admitted to the hospital with a severe infection.  Cleared that up and he’s back at the rehab place.  I don’t know how long he will live.  Each time he has one of these health crisis’ he rebounds but he’s still losing ground.  When I am with him, I try very hard to be present.  To allow myself to let the world fall away and to just focus on him and what he needs.  He needs company, he needs patience, he needs help, he needs to be heard.  He needs someone to just BE with him.  Someone to hold him in light and love.  People say to me, “I’ll pray he gets better.” And they mean well but the disease is progressive and he’s 81 years old.  What I pray every day is this, “God, give us the strength the accept this situation, to be compassionate, to make the best decisions and give him a peaceful death.”  

In September, for my birthday, Michael and I were hiking and I had a crushing epiphany.  I had been spending so much time with my Dad that I had been neglecting my own family.  Jasper was getting older and I realized, sitting right there on that mountain, that I may not have much time left for hiking with him.  He has arthritis and even if he’s here next fall he may not be physically able to hike.  I sat in that field and cried.  I resolved right there to make some changes.  As hard as it was to tell my Dad I shared with him how I felt and that I was going to visit twice a week and take Jasper hiking while I still had the chance.  That I needed to be present for BOTH of them and this was the way I was going to accomplish that.  Little did I know how right my intuition would be.  At the end of September we discovered Jasper had a really infected tooth and enlarged lymph nodes.  He had surgery to remove the tooth and we chalked the lymph nodes up to the infection.  After his antibiotics were finished and his lymph nodes did not recede, we aspirated the nodes.  The pathology was inconclusive.  Could be leukemia, could be cancer, could be an infection.  We started him on prednisone.  Shortly after, on a Friday morning he spiked a fever.  The vet started him on some heavy-duty antibiotics and we discovered he was anemic as well.  I thought he was going to die that first night.  His breathing was so labored and he was so fatigued.  Once the antibiotics went to work he made it through the weekend and just like my Dad rebounded but wasn’t 100%.  I realized I had to figure out how to be present for him, now.  I reduced my work commitments as much as possible and made my time with him a priority.  I knew, in my heart, that I didn’t have much time.  I still thought, though, that I had more than we ended up having.  He had a pretty good two weeks and then on a Monday morning he was so fatigued.  I scooped him up and we cuddled on the bed all morning.  He was always my cuddle buddy.  I called Michael to come home early because I had to visit Dad and go to work and didn’t want him to be alone.  When I came home that night the look on Michael’s face told me everything I needed to know.  He wasn’t going to rebound from this.  We called the vet and made arrangements for them to come out the next day.  So, on Nov 6th, 2018 we helped our beloved companion and teacher pass from this world to the next.  He was at home surrounded by Michael, Monica, Stanley and I.  We were able to tell him how much we loved him and would miss him and that soon he wouldn’t be in pain anymore.  That soon he would be young and vibrant again and running with Maverick.  I keep telling my Dad that when he dies and gets to the other side to look for my dogs.  That they will be there waiting for him and will show him the way back to me.  I know that Maverick still visits us and he will show Jasper how to do the same.  While my heart hurts that he is not with me I know that he is not “dead”.  Energy doesn’t die.  He is just transformed and on to a new adventure.  Part of me knows that my time with him was a gift and that our connection is still as strong as always and our souls are intertwined and that we will be together again.  And part of me is still in shock that he is gone.  With Maverick we had a year of “pre – grieving” and a fast death, (he was gone 12hours after we found him unresponsive).  With Jasper we had a short period of “pre-grief”, just a few weeks and we didn’t even really know we should be preparing ourselves and a longer death.  We watched his body fail for 24 hours before he died.  And if that doesn’t sound very long to you let me tell you it’s an eternity when your companion can’t walk and has labored breathing.  I knew it was time to let him go because his physical body had failed.  But it was just so quick (just months) and so recent (6 weeks tomorrow) that I find I am compartmentalizing to just get through the holidays.  Just writing about it brings on the sobbing “ugly” crying that you see in movies.  I take solace in the fact that while I can’t be present with my pain now I was 100% present with him at the end of his life.  I gave him everything I could before he died.

In the spring Michael’s mom was diagnosed with cancer.  She had brain surgery and spent the summer cancer free.  It has returned and she will be starting chemotherapy soon.

But last year wasn’t all “bad news”.  There were really joyous moments as well.

In February my beloved niece, Monica and her husband Corey had a baby, Athena Bobbi Castellano.  I am over the moon excited to watch not only Athena grow up but to watch Monica and Corey grow and mature as parents.  Athena is the goddess of wisdom and war and is the perfect namesake for this little one.  Every time I see her, I think of the Shakespeare quote, “Though she be but little, she is fierce!” 

Last year Michael entered a small art show and took first place in sculpture.  Building on that success this spring he entered another show at a Denver gallery.  We had a few friends with us for opening night and when they handed out the awards he took Best in Show!  What an amazing moment!  Feeling the anticipation build as they went category by category and then finally hearing his name is a moment neither of us will forget.  And having our friends there to share the moment made it that much sweeter.  With that win came the opportunity for his own exhibition.  So, in October to celebrate Michael’s 50th birthday he had his very first art exhibition at Gallery 1505 in Denver.  It’s not a big gallery but it’s a start and it was so much fun to see him step into this next chapter of his life.  Hot on the heels of that exhibition he entered and was selected for his first international show, Craft Forms 2018.  It was a REALLY big deal to even be selected and we made the trip to Pennsylvania in December to attend opening night.  He didn’t win an award but he did sell his piece on opening night.  I can’t wait to see where Michael’s art takes him in this life and I wonder how his life would have been different if he had allowed himself to be an “artist” his whole life instead of waiting until now.

In October Michael celebrated his 50th birthday.  We went hiking and it was a perfect day.  It was sunny and warm enough for just a light jacket.  Not a cloud in the sky and no wind.  There were pockets of snow in the shady areas that the dogs could play in and dig.  I didn’t know it would be Jasper’s last hike but it was and it really was perfect.  We spent the day together in a place that we love and I know that Maverick was there with us.  And, don’t ask me why, but I dragged along my tripod so we could get some family pictures, never dreaming they would be our last with Jasper, but they were and I’m so grateful I have learned to listen to my intuition.  You can see we are getting a little grey, and maybe a little thicker around the middle but there’s just something about the picture that I love.  I think it’s “us” living our life in the present.  Not worrying if I have makeup on, or if my hair is perfect, or if we are dirty.  It’s us as we recharge our batteries and create memories.  I love it so much I put it on our  Christmas card.

I sit here right now, thinking about all these moments on 2018.  When you look at them individually you see some that were wonderful and some that were absolutely crushing.  But when you look at the whole picture you see life.  This quote seems to sum up 2018 perfectly.

“Life is amazing.  And then it’s awful.  And then it’s amazing again. And in between the amazing and awful it’s ordinary and mundane and routine.  Breathe in the amazing, hold on through the awful, and relax and exhale during the ordinary.  That’s just living heartbreaking, soul-healing, amazing, awful ordinary life.  And it’s breathtakingly beautiful.”
~L. R. Knost

As we all step into a new year may we all be “present” in the moment.  May we all see our breathtakingly beautiful lives.
Jennifer

People ask me all the time, “What do you feed your dogs?”  I always dread this question.  What I feed my dog doesn’t mean that is what you should feed your dog.  You should feed your dog the foods that allow them to thrive.  For some dogs that is a grain free diet.  For other dogs that is a raw food diet.  Perhaps even a home prepared diet is the key.  Your job as their guardian is to find the right food for your dog. 
When Maverick was a puppy I fed the same food my parents fed their dog.  The vet sold it to them so it must be a good food, right?  Wrong!!  It was (and still is) an awful food for my dogs.  Maverick always had gunky eyes.  My trainer at the time recommended I talk to someone about food so I found someone with more knowledge than me.  They pointed out that his current food was full of corn and that corn was not ideal for dogs.  I changed to a better quality kibble and his eyes cleared up.  But, then he developed hot spots on his body and was still itchy.  He had to go onto a steroid to stop the itching and this was all before he was 1.5 yrs old!  I knew there was something wrong and I started to research alternative foods.  I researched raw feeding.  Raw meaty bones.  I transitioned him and the change was dramatic.  His eyes were bright, his coat was great and his energy was wonderful.  This was a match for him.  I would classify myself as  a raw food feeder.  They still get dry food when we go hiking, in food toys or as a light morning supplement but the bulk of their food is raw.  I also do some crock pot cooking for them and they love that occasionally as well.  Variety.  My dogs thrive on variety.  I rotate my form of food and I also give a good rotation of protein sources.  They never get the same bag of dry food twice in a row.  I always rotate the manufacturer and the protein source.  This is what works best for my dogs.  What works best for your dogs might be different. 
So, how do you tackle the question of what is the best food for your dog? 

I am NOT GIVING YOU NUTRITIONAL ADVICE for your dog.  This is just one friend talking to another friend and here is what my food journey has taught me.

•  Do your research.  The books and websites that have really helped me are: 
  • Give your dog a bone by Dr. Ian Billinghurst. 
  • Unlocking the canine ancestral diet by Steve Brown 
  • www.thetruthaboutpetfood.com
  • www.dogfoodadvisor.com 
  • www.dogfoodproject.com
    
  • The Whole Dog Journal annual food reviews
• Be patient and be willing to try different things for your dog. 
  • Try different dry foods. Expensive doesn’t guarantee your dog will thrive on it.  There are quite a few really expensive dry foods that my dogs don’t thrive on and in fact have adverse reactions. 
  • Try raw foods - frozen and thawed. My dogs prefer commercial raw frozen and meaty bones thawed.
  • Try different brands of raw food. My dogs are not big fans of big patties but love nugget and morsels from Primal.  My dogs do not like dehydrated food but love freeze dried food.
  • Try dehydrated foods.  My dogs don’t like them but lots of dogs do.
  • Cook your dog food and try different recipes.  If you dog likes canned soft food then crock pot cooking is the way to go!  It’s cheaper and doesn’t have a ton of additives and preservatives in it.
• Rotate, rotate, rotate. You don’t eat the same thing every night and neither should your dog.  Good nutrition is balanced over time and different protein sources have different vitamins and minerals.
• Feed the best food you can afford.  I can't always afford to eat organic food.  But, that doesn't mean I completely give up.  When I can I select higher quality food for myself I do.  It's the same with your dogs.  What you put in your dog’s body affects how they feel AND how they behave so stack the deck in your favor.  Good nutrition supports your training program and poor nutrition undermines your training goals by affecting their bodies and brain.  If you can’t afford a high quality kibble consider supplementing your dog’s diet with fresh whole foods like cooked green beans, making some crock pot meals etc.  Avoid CORN and foods with corn in them!  Read more about the detrimental effects of corn in the nutrition booklet below.
• If your dog doesn’t like something don’t take it personally.  I had a friend who didn’t like peanut butter and jelly sandwiches when he was a young kid.  It wasn’t until he was 8yrs old that they found out he was allergic to peanuts.  As a young child he didn’t have the vocabulary to say “this makes me feel icky” so avoiding the food was the only way he could communicate that it wasn’t good for him.  Dogs do the same thing.  They avoid foods that make them feel icky.
• Watch your dog’s stool.  For some dogs a change is food will cause loose stools.  You don’t want diarrhea.  But, there is a fine line between severe intestinal upset and a slightly upset tummy.  We all have an upset tummy from time to time because we ate something too rich.  If you eat the same bland thing day after day and someone finally gives you something with flavor there is a chance your system might be surprised and result in loose stools but that doesn’t mean the food itself was bad.  Just that your system wasn’t used to it.
• Your dog should be HAPPY about their food.  If they walk away and aren’t enthusiastic about eating they are trying to tell you something.  Listen!

There is a wealth of information available to educate yourself about food.  It can sometimes be overwhelming and confusing.  If, however, you listen to your dog, they will tell you what food they will thrive on.  We want healthy and happy dogs and that starts with the building blocks of their body-food!  You wouldn’t expect great health if all you ate was potato chips and fast food and neither will you dog. 

Check out my short nutritional booklet below. 

May is Pet Cancer Awareness Month.

It’s almost a year since I heard those dreaded words.  It’s cancer.  And you know what?  Maverick is doing great!  Back then I didn’t know that you could live with cancer and still thrive.  Yes, he is slowing down but that has more to do with his age than with the cancer.  If you didn’t know he had cancer you wouldn’t be able to tell.
 
So, how is life with cancer different? 

Every day I make sure he eats.  He can eat pretty much anything he wants now.  My agreement with him is that he can have whatever he wants but he MUST eat every day.  Some mornings he wants a peanut butter cliff bar.  Some days he wants kibble.  Some days it’s red meat and some days it’s chicken.  He has really taken a liking to Evanger’s Hi-Bio semi moist dog food and Primal’s freeze dried dinner patties.  I have had to try lots of new variety to encourage him to eat.  Sometimes I hand feed him to make it fun and that can sometimes get him to eat more.  What does he love the most?  Bison.  When I am lucky and find it in the markdown section at the store I buy all of it.  I don’t worry about quantity anymore just that he puts SOMETHING into his body everyday to fuel it. 

Every day he gets his medicine.  He has four herbal teas that I brew for him every two weeks and he gets a tsp or two of each every day.  In addition he gets a thyroid support tincture and a THC tincture.  It takes about 5 minutes a day to administer them all but it’s a tiny price to pay.   I also give him coconut oil when he wants it.

Every day I celebrate small things.  Like the vet being unable to feel any growths during his rectal exam at his last check up.  Like him feeling peppy and wanting to play longer than usually.

Every day I play with him.  I make time for him regardless of how busy I am.

Every day I say this prayer.  (I have actually done this for each of my dogs every day for years.  It’s my morning ritual.  I put my hands on them, I touch my head to theirs and I pray.)

“Thank you Lord for bringing Maverick into my life, to be a teacher, a guide, a companion and friend.  I ask that you bless him with an extra long life on this physical plane so that I may learn all that I can from him.  During that time I ask you to grant him more good days than bad, more health than sickness, more happiness than sadness and may he always know how much he is loved.”

May you never hear the words, “Your beloved pet has cancer” but if you do, know that you still have time to make Every Day great.